The Full Busted Fit

What is a full bust? Am I full busted? If you are a 36DDD, you are. And if your saying why yes, I am way above that size, and buy bras I hate, that never fit, or I feel like I’m wearing a granny bra… you have options… beyond the wonderbra… beyond Victorias secret in a size that doesnt work… and beyond something your mom or your grandma wears.

The majority of the full busted women I see are tired of the back pain and the general discomfort their bras give them on a day to day basis.  Most women who are blessed with large tatas think it something of a curse, a hassle, and downright hopeless when it comes to finding a good bra that fits…. and looks pretty, and makes her feel sexy.  Just because you have big breasts shouldn’t mean you have to sacrifice your femininity for a full coverage, laceless, nude, “granny bra” that at least keeps the girls in order but does nothing for the sexy confident factor ( which is everything… and I’ll post about that later).

Today was a magical day in the land of the full busted woman.  I had two clients today, sporting 34GG cup sizes.  This is a petite full, ranging from 30DDD to 34DDD and beyond.  Each one stocked up.  With not a nude bra in sight.  I fit them both in beautiful lacey, well constructed bras, that took the weight off their back, and shaped them.  Sometimes, particularly with the larger cup sizes the ladies tend to wander off to the side… this isn’t fun.  But the bras I fit them in give great shape and lift.

Here’s two  fun ones from today.  “Fitter to area 1” comes over the intercom, I drop what I am doing and wander out for a fit.  This big tall lady is waiting for me.  She looks down at me ( as 90% of the population does) and says, can you fit me for a new bra in 10 minutes? I told her, I love a challenge lets get to it, and led her to the fitting room.  She takes her shirt off and is in this bra that is so done.  Its stretched to its maximum (smallest hook) and doesn’t even come down below her breasts… let alone lay flat at all.  I took one look at it and was like, I hope your going to throw that away.  She looks at me and says absolutely sister, so I set to work fitting her.  I was two sizes off in the beginning… the visual illusion of the tiny bra made her look bigger than she was, and she bought the bra I fit her in, ripped off the tags, and she was off.  In under 10 minutes.  I also got the joy of throwing away her old bra.  Something I find incredibly satisfying.

My second 34GG of the day was in a bra, that was so tight for her, it was digging into her under her breast tissue, and into her sternum, it looked painful.  It was all red and starting to bruise.  I took the bra from her and told her she wasn’t wearing it again.  She laughed. And let me get rid of it.  She wore this beautiful Elomi rose petal bra out.  And bought 5 more.  She was so greatful for my help.  The appreciation on her face made every moment I had spent with her worth it.  I offered to add her to my client list and keep in touch with her, the gratitude and thankful smile was more than I had anticipated, and she even teared up a little bit.  Honestly, fitting someone that struggles with bras is one of the most satisfying great feelings, its like figuring out a puzzle.  Or completing a challenge.  Find the perfect bra that fits.  And let me tell ya, when that bra fits right, and was designed for you, its like the skies open up and I grin like a fool.  I tell every one of my clients they’ll know when I like a bra because I can’t stop smiling.

I believe in honesty.  So I’m not going to sell you what you don’t need.  And if you’re walking in with bras that are digging in, greyed, dirty, and generally useless, I’m going to tell you, and proceed to beg you to get more than one.  It usually works.  Anyway.  Here are the bras that have new homes today.  Freya, Fantasie, Panache, and Elomi, all are great brands that cater to the larger bust.  They are comfortable, shaping, and come in pretty colors, with lace, and matching panties.  These lines where designed specifically for the full busted woman, the have seam lines that lift and shape with wide smiles (underwire) to fit all the tissue, as well as reinforced sling on the inside of the cups for extra support.  I also am a big lover of Wacoal and Chantelle… they max out at an H, but if she’s built the right way these bras can be totally amazing.

A pretty feminine bra, that again provides great lift and shape while still remaining sexy

A pretty feminine bra, that again provides great lift and shape while still remaining sexy

This was my 10 minute fit bra, great shape, full coverage, gives excellent support, and so comfortable you wouldn't know your wearing it.

This was my 10 minute fit bra, great shape, full coverage, gives excellent support, and so comfortable you wouldn’t know your wearing it.

This is one of my all time favorites.  I bring it into every full fit I can, not only is it cute, but it makes a great Tshirt Bra

This is one of my all time favorites. I bring it into every full fit I can, not only is it cute, but it makes a great Tshirt Bra

Great shape, Pretty lace, fits on the snug side, cute boyshort panty

Great shape, Pretty lace, fits on the snug side, cute boyshort panty

A great fit, and a great print, this one if flying off my racks.

A great fit, and a great print, this one if flying off my racks.

This little number goes home with every woman I put in it.  Its sexy, fits well, and shapes to her body. Its an immediate love affair.

This little number goes home with every woman I put in it. Its sexy, fits well, and shapes to her body. Its an immediate love affair.

A cute print, and see thru, still providing great support due to the seams.

A cute print, and see thru, still providing great support due to the seams.

This is what she wore out today, Great fit, great shape, but still sexy with some lace

This is what she wore out today, Great fit, great shape, but still sexy with some lace

 

Where to buy?! ( Go get fit. Don’t waste your time ordering unless you KNOW your size :))

http://www.elomilingerie.com/

http://www.fantasie.com/

http://www.freyalingerie.com/lingerie/search.aspx

http://www.panache-lingerie.com/

http://www.wacoal-america.com/shop/wacoal-bras/up-to-g-and-h-cup/

http://www.chantelle.com/us_en/bras.html?dd_plus=385&style=363

Bralette? What is that? Does it work?

Comes in different colors, a cotton/modal blend, minimal support

Comes in different colors, a cotton/modal blend, minimal support

In my previous post I talked about bralettes, and what they were.  Today, I’ll provide a little bit more information.

A bralette is a bra without wires or molded cups, think on par to a sports bra, but without the intensity to hold you in.  They have thin or lacy straps like a regular bra, and provide a reasonable amount of support for small to average busted women.  Microfiber, lace, or a cotton blend are the common fabric comments usually.

When I was first introduced to them I was a little skeptical. I’m not big on my nipples being an accessory to outfits ( yes, some women like the look of having hard nipples and it showing through clothes). Anyway, in terms of support think yoga or other activities on par with that.

How do you wear this piece of stretchy mini bra madness without your nipples being headlights and wobbling all over the place you ask? Well, like I said, if your sporting an H cup size, probably not for you, but if you are between a 30A to 38 C you can get away with it.  I have a lace Cosabella one I like to wear under button down shirts leaving the top buttons undone so its peaking out, kindof flirty and sexy but still professional for work.  I sold 4 to a girl the other day who, despite her mothers horror, is absolutely a hippie, and was buying bras for the festivals she was going to this summer.  She’ll be sporting a myriad of colors under her overalls.

There’s really no limit to what you can do, you just have to be a little creative. They are also a great day off bra.  I’m a big believer in wearing a bra all the time.  Gravity is an unforgiving friend, that can take even the most perkiest to their knees over time.  No, you don’t need to sleep in one (though if you are petite or full busted, 30DDD and beyond I’d recommend it) I’d still wear one on your off days.  Bralettes are the perfect non commitment bra.  They are comfortable, soft, can be sexy, and will give you just enough support to go to the grocery store, get the kids to daycare, and watch Tv.  Just dont stand under an air vent.

Enough ranting. Here’s some pictures. And some links to peruse!

Microfiber, lightweight, good support, lots of stretch

Microfiber, lightweight, good support, lots of stretch

Stretchy lace, light support, cute matching thong or boyshort

Stretchy lace, light support, cute matching thong or boyshort

Stretchy lace, light support, back closure

Stretchy lace, light support, back closure

Back view, this is what most bralettes look like from the back.

Back view, this is what most bralettes look like from the back.

Minimal support, but a fun top

Minimal support, but a fun top

Light support, name implies the benefits.

Light support, name implies the benefits.

Where can I buy some?!

http://www.freepeople.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=search.results&searchString=bralettes

http://www.hankypanky.com/search.asp?viewall=1&adv=&searching=bralettes&style=&collection=

http://www.wacoal-america.com/shop/wacoal-bras/bralette/

http://www.honeydewintimates.com/Bralettes_c_3.html

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/shimera-seamless-bra/3073229?origin=keywordsearch&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Beige+Frappe&resultback=0

http://shop.cosabella.com/Cosabella%20Never%20Say%20Never%20Sweetie%20Soft%20Bra.html

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/kensie-jamie-lace-trim-bralette/3253242?origin=PredictiveSearch&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Black&resultback=0

 

 

Slow Down the Sounds Around You

Today while I was calling customers letting them know that their bras were back from alterations one of the women from hosiery came in looking for a bra fitter.  I was surrounded by a mountain of bras, clothes, and bags with the phone in my hand, calling wrong numbers because I couldn’t read the tailors handwriting.  Everyone was too busy to help this “little lady that needs a bra”, so I left my pile and followed the saleswoman out to the floor.

There I found who I was to spend the next hour with, standing, slightly crouched over, looking confused and lost amidst the bustle of the department and the traffic on the aisle.  I walked over and asked her what she needed.  I could hardly hear her or understand.  I thought she needed a prosthesis fit, which I explained I couldn’t help her with, but that I could go get someone.  This look of fear flew into her eyes as she looked into mine, and told me no no that I could help her.  I asked her again, differently what it was she needed and she explained she needed a sports bra, in which I told her that activewear would carry more of what she wanted.  Again I got a look of fear, confusion, and no no you can help me.  I had to step back in my head, and concentrate, make the room go silent, and listen to what she was trying to say.  It was hard for her to talk, and clearly she’d been shuffled around, and just wanted someone to slow down and take the time to listen to her and help her.

So I shut everything out, and looked deep into her confused blue eyes, and listened, and heard in her eyes what she was asking for.  She needed a bra, a sports bra that she could pull on and off over her head because she couldn’t lift her arms.  She can’t clasp bras anymore, and has been wearing sports bras, and needs something new.  My mind went through all the options we have, like a file, I do this daily.  I told her that I could help her, but that the what I had for sports bras weren’t going to help.  “But I do have some bralettes I can show you.” “What are those?” She asked.  I explained that they were light bras with only elastic that offered light support  and could be pulled over your head.  She wanted to see them so I took her over to our most basic option, stretchy microfiber, that is easily pulled on and off.  She was excited and and wanted to try some.  I pulled two sizes.  She then looked deep into my eyes and tried to explain by hand movement across her chest she wanted something pretty.  Even the most tomboy of women have moments of femininity, age is no different.

I have a particular favorite lace bralette by Cosabella that I swear by.  They are stretchy, comfortable, all lace, and still sexy, offering just enough support for small to average bustlines.  Anyway, I walked her over and told her I had just the thing for her.  Her eyes lit up and she smiled as I showed her.  We pulled two sizes and I asked her if she was ready for a fitting room. She nodded.

I led her into the fitting rooms. She asked me how my day was going as we walked over, I said fine, though now I wish I’d said a little more, I was too busy thinking about my messy pile in back I had to deal with. I picked a room,  opened the door and entered after her.  It was a struggle for her to put her things down.  I offered if I could help her take her clothes off, she said yes please, and I helped her get out of her jacket, her sweater, her second sweater, and finally, pull her sports bra over her head.  She had no range of motion in her arms, they stayed forward only and bent at the elbow.  I imagined what it must be like for her in day to day life, how hard it must be, how much harder its been to watch her mobility fade like this.

We tried the first bra, and the second, the third and the fourth.  She told me about how her daughter nags her about her mobility, and how she thinks its crazy she even bothers wearing a bra. We picked the sizes that worked best.  But as we were trying them on, she said to me, dont help, I have to see if I can do this by myself.  The hardest thing, is to stand there and watch, as someone struggles.  But she managed.  And I only help when the tag got in her way.  She took two microfiber bralettes.  A black one.  And she asked for a second in navy.  “If I don’t have the navy, what other color could I get you?” “What else do you have?” She asked.  I listed off the colors I could remember, and a little smirk crossed her face as she said, ” If you can’t get navy I want red.” I have to say. I admire a woman that doesn’t get nude, black, and white. I had it in navy.  She was tired after all of this, and wore the lace Cosabella bralette out of the store.

I cut off all the tags at the cashwrap, and waited for her.  I helped her get her shirt on before leaving, and gave her the option of helping her get dressed, or finding the navy.  She told me to go hunt.  When she met me at the cashwrap she needed me to look up her card.  It was too hard for her to dig through her purse, I helped get her ID out.  I asked her to write down the pertinent information I needed to retrieve the card number, but she struggled so I offered to write it for her.  I felt so stupid in that instant, I should have known writing would be a struggle, her hands barely worked for her anymore.  But i got the card, followed through with the transaction.  I helped her put her sweater on, and she looked deep into my eyes again, and I in hers and she thanked me so much for the help I gave her with a smile on her face. I told her to have a good rest of her day and enjoy the sunshine.

Part of what made this such an intense experience, besides her obvious mobility and speech impairment, was the eye contact.  It was intense, and deep.  Not like something I’ve experienced.  Her eyes were blue, with tiny little pupils in the center.  We looked deep into each other as we spoke, like we were making some sort of connection.  It was intense, and almost magic (?).  I’m not sure really how to explain it, but looking deep into them made everything clearer, and I could understand better.  Not watching her lips, or listening harder, but just staring into her eyes.

So many things we take for granted and never think about.  Imagine not being able to do the things you wanted.  And have to rely on people.  I can’t even imagine what it must have been like for her to even get to my store.  And how tired she was after the ordeal.  I hope that she is happy, and I hope that the bras work.  Its the only difference I can make in her life, and I hope it works.  Its so easy to pass off people that don’t perhaps function like the rest of us.  To move quickly and solve a problem without listening.  I did that.  I tried to pass her off twice before actually listening, understanding, and helping.  Next time, I will listen.  Every missed opportunity is an opportunity to improve.

The First Post: Marlies Dekkers

Close up image of front of Leading Strings Corset, Marlies Dekkers

Close up image of front of Leading Strings Corset, Marlies Dekkers

I’ve been procrastinating my first post for about a week now.  I was told its awkward and weird, because it is after all, the first post.  So I guess I’ll jump right in.

On my internet perusing during my day off today I came across Marlies Dekkers.  I’m totally unfamiliar with the brand, but got the pleasure of seeing one of these awesomely constructed bras in person the other day. Part of my draw to them is the construction.  I really like modern lines that these bras have that go over the breast.  Its a different take on “the bra”.  But pictures speak louder than words.  So go look. And enjoy.

 

Back view of  Leading Strings Corset, Marlies Dekkers

Back view of Leading Strings Corset, Marlies Dekkers

Back view of Calder Balconette Bra, Marlies Dekkers

Back view of Calder Balconette Bra, Marlies Dekkers

 

Front of Leading Strings Bra and thong set, Marlies Dekkers

Front of Leading Strings Bra and thong set, Marlies Dekkers

Back view of Leading Strings set, Marlies Dekkers

Back view of Leading Strings set, Marlies Dekkers

Lady from Shanghai woven top

Relevant Links:

http://www.marliesdekkers.com/

Where to Buy:

http://shop.marliesdekkers.com//homepage.html

http://shop.nordstrom.com/